North american dating
North american dating
In other words, when it comes to V-Day, people either have it for sure, or don’t even think of it. But the key is that everything is talkable, and open communication is the key to navigating the relationship scene in a country that we are not originally from.
We used this V-Day to make it official that we are only dating each other, and we got the chance to have beautiful V-Day date night at the beach. Well, the first Valentine’s Day I actually got to celebrate, anyway. for two years now, I have been experienced many firsts, but none of them compare to the first I experienced last week - my first Valentine’s Day.My friends were so surprised that at 24 years old I had never had a real Valentine’s Day, but I am pretty sure I am not alone (please LEAVE COMMENTS below if this year was also your first V-Day! Last Valentine’s Day, my friend told me not to be sad that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with - when the time is right, it will exceed all your expectations. So let’s go back to talking about the big V-Day date, and chatting about some points that I think are interesting to share.Having "the talk"Before V-Day this year, my boyfriend and I had been dating for a couple of months, and we were right at the point of “defining the relationship.” We had a big, formal talk over dinner one night to discuss where we were in this relationship and where it should be going, and this talk basically determined if we would celebrate Valentine’s Day together.S.: dating, casual dating, relationship, open relationship (this one does not make any sense to me), serious relationship, etc.
It’s easy to see how people could be confused about which stage they are and which stage their partners are.
The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.
Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.
Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together.