Dating someone who gets angry

19-Apr-2019 21:40 by 7 Comments

Dating someone who gets angry

If you want to feel and be peaceful and happy, start by identifying what that looks like—what you think about, what you feel, what you do, how you interact with people. Don’t think about the totality of the rest of your days.

You may even come to appreciate what that identity gives you: attention, the illusion of understanding, or the warmth of compassion, for example.

Though some of us have endured more serious situations, you really can’t quantify or compare emotional pain.

To a teenager who just had her heart broken, the pain really seems like the end of the world.

It still doesn’t serve you to sit around feeling bad for yourself, blaming other people. You can’t feel good if you use this moment to feel bad about another person’s actions.

The only way to experience happiness is to take responsibility for creating it, whether other people made it easy for you or not.

Like everyone, I’ve been hurt, in both profound and trivial ways. You can only find happiness when you let it go and make room for something better.

I’ve dealt with it using the following ideas: It’s not always easy to identify and understand what’s hurting you. This will help you understand why you’re hurting and what you’ll do in the future to avoid similar pain so you can feel empowered instead of victimized. You don’t need another person’s permission to let go and feel okay.You can have a sad story in your past without building your present around it.It’s not easy to release a pain identity, particularly if you’ve carried it around for a long time.What they have in common is pain, born from different adversities and circumstances. It may seem like another way to understand what happened, or maybe it feels helpful to hear someone say you didn’t do anything wrong and you don’t deserve to hurt.When you’re hurting some people might tell you to “suck it up and deal,” as if that’s a valid solution. In all reality this just keeps you stuck right where you are: living your life around a memory and giving it power to control you.Most of us can relate on some level to that feeling.